does anyone else have problems still not trusting people of the opposite race?

Question

I have found myself really feeling very bitter torward white people, I have yet in my 20 something years of living yet to meet a nice honest white person, i dont want to not like them but this is really becoming a problem for me, i have lived by the kkk and in south georgia all my life with alot of racist and im beginning to think they are all the same

Answer 1

You need to move away from there, girl. When I was in Birmingham a few years back, I had to pick a hotel for us to stay at. I picked the one next door to a McDonald's since it would meke getting something to eat easier. When I went to get something to eat at the McDonald's, I noticed a little black boy at the front of the line. The cashier skipped over him and took the next person in line's order. She did this over and over again until I got to the head of the line. She tried that again and I wouldn't let her ignore the little boy anymore. I made her take his order. I can't imagine how it would feel growing up that way and having people mistreat you all the time. I'm sure it would leave you frustrated, angry and hostile toward whatever group was doing it. It's not just a regional thing, but it's worse in certain states. You need to leave there and go to a place that is more friendly toward your race. Those hucksters won't change for another coulpe of generations.

Answer 2

Don't let the KKK lead you to believe all white people are evil. There are just extremists. A lot of people I know are like that with what's going on in Iraq right now. Any Middle Eastern person is a "towel head". It really is disturbing. We will always have one group of people trying to ruin it for their country. Just try to remember there are good people out there from anywhere. It just seems to be getting harder and harder to find them. I can understand why you would feel that way, though, and it must be pretty hard. I can't say "I know how you feel", because I'm white and live in NY. As far as I know, the KKK doesn't lurk around here too bad. If it's really bad I'd just move, but that's not easy because you probably love it there otherwise. I'm white and I love you!!!!! Next time you think about the KKK think of me!!



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Answer 3

I consider myself to be an honest white person. We're out there. It isn't easy for people from different races to get along well. You'll never truly be able to relate to a white person and white people won't be able to fully relate with you. Your race affects your whole life. You are treated differently, your background is different, you have a completely different culture. All you can really do is be who you are and try to accept other people.



I have a hard time being close to black people. In my school there is almost no communication between blacks and whites. There isn't really any hatred or violence between the races, but hardly anyone hangs out with members of a different race. I used to live in Chicago and had lots of black friends but things in Connecticut aren't the same. Hopefully when I'm in college there will be less of a divide.



Just know that not all white people are the same. Everyone is unique in some way, and even if you aren't close to white people, it doesn't mean they don't like you. I think that as time goes on, racism will begin to diminish. Kids seem to be a lot more open than adults, and now black people are beginning to have the same opportunities as whites. Society still isn't fair, but it's getting there.

Answer 4

What does it have to do with the color of the skin? You can't judge a book by it's cover.

I have lived in the north, the south, the east, and now in the west. I once lived in a town with practicing kkk. I hate what they stand for and once told a clansmen to his face. You see, I am a white blonde female and he thought I would be on his side. Boy, was he wrong.

Trusting someone has nothing to do with color. If you stop and think about it, aren't you starting to think the same way as the kkk, but in reverse? All white people are not the same, just as all black, yellow, or blue people are not the same.

Martin Luther King Jr. was a man that you need to do some research on. He was you ALL colors. Look up his " I had a dream" speech and really think about it.

Trust is a whole different subject. There are few people I do trust, but it has nothing to do with skin color.

Answer 5

No one is all the same!! Move up north, go to a mixed church if you are a Christian, visit a new place or go to college out of state, not in the deep south. I've always lived around white people and I've met tons of great caring individuals who would help you, befriend you, not judge you for anything. I am actually surpised at the question since I know such great people. You say you lived in Georgia your entire life? I don't think South Georgia is a good basis to judge people. You've still got alot of living to do. I suggest moving North and experiencing new surroundings. In a liberal or moderate place (and even in some conservative places) you will find people to like...and it wont be hard. You will find that your previous judgements are all wrong.

Answer 6

You need to move away from there, girl. When I was in Birmingham a few years back, I had to pick a hotel for us to stay at. I picked the one next door to a McDonald's since it would meke getting something to eat easier. When I went to get something to eat at the McDonald's, I noticed a little black boy at the front of the line. The cashier skipped over him and took the next person in line's order. She did this over and over again until I got to the head of the line. She tried that again and I wouldn't let her ignore the little boy anymore. I made her take his order. I can't imagine how it would feel growing up that way and having people mistreat you all the time. I'm sure it would leave you frustrated, angry and hostile toward whatever group was doing it. It's not just a regional thing, but it's worse in certain states. You need to leave there and go to a place that is more friendly toward your race. Those hucksters won't change for another coulpe of generations.

Answer 7

I am a white female, 27 years old. I grew up in an all-white town but my parents did not raise me to be racist. They raised me to look at people for who they are and not what color of skin they have. You might be getting older, but your mentality is still not where it should be. All white people are not the same, just as black people are not. You are obviously close-minded and have not had enough positive experiences to open your eyes. Hopefully it will happen, but if it doesn't don't pawn your attitude off on your kids. That's what keeps racism alive. Byt the way, I am with a black man of three years who grew up in Gary, Indiana. He was skeptical of white people also, but I have changed his opinion. Yeah, he knows there are some f-ed up white people that hate him for no reason, but he is choosing to look at the person individually instead of grouping the whole race together as one. You hate when white people do that to you right? They say you are a black female so you must be on welfare and have seven kids and don't know who tha father is. Think about it, when people say that they are just being ignorant because they don't know any better. And you are doing the exact same thing. Open up your mind and change your viewpoint of the world. Things might change for you. God bless you.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I myself am a trustworthy white person, but I can understand where your coming from. A hint on what to do maybe is when a white person looks at you give a polite smile and say hi, its a good chance youll find a polite white person out there.

Answer 10

well you wouldn't have ask that if you have hate in your heart. you really need to be able to see THE PERSON not the color, but if you lived close to the kkk, i can understand your problem. no we are not all bad. but just like in any race we have our share ! i live in Kentucky and my dad whipped me for my first black friend. SO I MET HER AROUND THE CORNER before school so he wouldn't see me. I'm not a hater and will never be.im really sorry you have had so much trouble

Answer 11

Why be like them, be yourself. Not all Whites are untrustworthy.Those that are, are scared narrow minded people who probably go to church every Sunday and claim to love God, who by the way is not prejudiced (Acts 10:34&35) and then turn around and act like like they are superior to other races.By the way, aren't they made of flesh and blood too!

Answer 12

i am a white man in Richmond VA 6'2" 250lbs . int a bad bone in this body i would be more than happy to hold your hand or put my arm around you walk down the street and call you a friend . wanna do it there are nice white people out there but i don't think your gonna find them in south GA i miss you but please don't group us all together cuse of a group of butt heads

Answer 13

trust is not a racial issue, it is a personal issue. as far as racism goes american blacks are by far the most racist group I have ever seen!

I know there are racist whites, there are racist people among any group or race of people on earth, but, I have seen many blacks that even hate other blacks because the color of their skin is a few shades differnt than their own!!!

SO what gives?

Answer 14

well not all people in the south are like that. im white and i live in alabama. i live around alot of racist people, one being my boss that says the n word all the time. but there are somethings i dont understand about black people. why is it ok for them to call white people all kinds of stuff but when we fight back and defend ourselves yall say its all offensive and stuff. i dont get that. in the south white people probaly feel the same about black people as black people feel about whites. your right it is very racist down here, but i feel that black people are more racist that white people.

Answer 15

First of all, stating "opposite race" indicates a dicotomy with two polar ends and something sitting at each end of it. Logical fallacy.



Secondly, this is reverse racism. Sadly, racism employs a lot of conversation that utilizes broad terminogy including absolute statements (both logical fallacies).



I'm sorry that you feel very violated by people of a certain race that you have come across. However, here are the two main logical fallacies i've picked out from your statement. (Logical fallacy simply means an error in logic)



1) "All" is implying that you have met every white person to exist.



2)Behavior based on skin color is illogical. Behavior is most often based on socialization, meaning, they learn behavior. A person cannot teach their skin to be a certain color. (they can use material things to change their skin color) So, behaviors based on skin color is equating education to biology. This is the second logical fallacy.



I too have to deal with large amounts of discrimination based on the social categories society puts me into. I have listed links below if you would like to preview the world i experience. The hate directed at me is also socialized behavior. people learn and teach hate =( you can learn and/or teach hate. or you can choose to learn and teach something more positive.



My boy is now 4 years old. last year he asked me "Amiko, what color are you?" I was immediately alarmed because this sounded like he was asking a race based question. i wasn't sure though, so i responded, "That's an interesting question, Freedom, what color are you?" He smiled and stated matter of factly, "I'm rainbow colored." He then proceeded to point out several differing colors apparent on his body. I still don't know where he learned this wonderful way of looking at bodies and colors. I wish we could all someday socially evolve to this type of thinking.



I do realize that there is institutionalized discrimination based on all kinds of social categories: age, race, national origin, sexual orientation, (non)gender identity, class, etc. Social institutions depend on individual people to continue condoning large scale systems of oppression.



You can examine the oppression you feel and utilize those feelings however you choose. I suggest educating yourself about more than just your own oppressed group. If people learn to see one another with a single commonality, that is, see that we are all Human,beyond any other category, then if we began evaluating oppression on a basis of what is happening to humans. There is inequality between 'Humans' and begin changing things. If people search to gain equality just between white people and one single other race, then what about white people and say another single race? or say two races that are not white? What about all the inequality happening in other areas that don't concern race? Tunnel vision is one of the largest obstacles to achieving human equality and effectively ending oppression.

Links:

1) The livejournal has many papers that deal with matters of oppression pertaining to things like immigration, class, sexual orientation, gender identity, etc.

2) Is the gender education community i run online. one thread i would like to highlight in order to get a view of some of the oppression i see happening in the world, is called "oh dear god, this could end up so f***** up.."



I welcome you to view the world through the eyes of many oppressed peoples, and hopefully to see that the problem is with systems of 'human' inequality happening today. Humans are inherently equally, they are created unequal through ideologies that are taught and maintained by every member of society. we are society, you and i and the next person and every person who responds to this thread. Every person here = society. when we change ourselves, and change what we are teaching one another, society changes. ^_^



Best of thoughts with you, Gabriel

Answer 16

as a black male I have noticed that when I walk by a white persons door they reach over and lock it.

Answer 17

i am white an get the same thing here in to canada so i try to live with it but getting to old to care if they want the steets good then i can shoot them like they do

Answer 18

you only define one other race.. how do you feel about other races... seems to me you are condemning all because of the few you know..

Answer 19

No, I don't dislike anyone because of their race.

Answer 20

Girl,lets get together to fight those white bastards.

I'm half 1\2 asian

Answer 21

i do, some big big black dude, comes up to me , and is like "buy me a patty" He's like i'm starving, yet buddy is wearing half the fubu collection.

Answer 22

i do not like people because of their color, i check out each person for what they are and the way they treat people, way they carry themselves, their kindness and respect for themselves and other people..

a story that is true:

i am a white woman, met this brother and started dating him, got serious and he has 5 sister's and one brother. they were known not to play games with people, and worked at a local hospital and most of the white girls there acted like a snob and his sisters did not like white girls... in time most of them met me except his youngest sister, she heard i was white and she was going to go off on me. when she turned 21 she was coming to the club all of us hung at and i was warned that i was in trouble...all of his sister's showed up to celebrate her birthday, my boyfriend and i went also, when his baby sister came he took off , scared that trouble was coming and he did not to be there...[ she disliked white girls from hearing about white girls at work and at the club[ most of the white girls that came there were looking for the black men to party with and they were rude and nasty, did not care if the men were married or had a woman, to be honest they were sluts and no good] [when i came i came with my black girlfriends, bought my own drinks, did not hustle $$, drinks or cigs.. and made no promises for personal action with the men, i kept my nose clean, and told the guys that i came with my friends, liked to dance, will buy my own drinks, cigs...etc... the reason is i am not looking for a man for the night, all i want to do is dance[ i love to dance, and that is all

they will not get any action with me at all] they like my being honest and direct. i would dance with them only, and come and leave with my friends.. due to this self respect, they started respected me and their wifes also did also. the word went out that i was cool and everyone got along , in fact i became friends with many of the women and well known [in a good way]

this was in my twenties, now 60, and i still have all of those people as friends, they come to my house and i go to their house, and keep in touch often. [i guess i was the exception to the rule] . you are right to be careful of people, regardless of race, until you can trust them and then you might find some white's to be ok and i know there are 100"s of white for 1 that you will not like for many reasons..

back to the night little sister came in. i was in bathroom when she came in , she was sitting with her sisters, and they were nervous because they liked me, and of course they were not going to take my side, their sister [family always come first, as it should. when i came out, i heard her talking where is that white B""" i am going to ######her, i stopped and looked at her, i said hey i hear you where is she i got your back, [humor} she looked at me, and started laughing.......then she got off her stool and said, my sister's told me you were cool, and i did not believe it, and then she came called me sisterinlaw and hugs me, bought me a drink and we started talking all night, and became best of friends.....and still are... even in california we have racist's and

one has to watch who and what people are everywhere in this country. [even on this forum "answers" i see questions with the stupid questions and i answer them telling them how stupid they are and we are all God's children and shame on them]

if you want to talk e mail me at walterknowsall

@yahoo.com and would like to chat with you my name is sandy take care hope to chat with you

Answer 23

please, please, please, no we are not, just like any other race we are all different...get out of the south...I would not live there for anything,