Going to a new youth group?

Question

I go to a great church.I love it.I used to go youth group, too. I loved it too. I felt accepted, the games were fun, the kids were mostly nice, but most importantly the messages were good and I was learning and growing spiritually. But then....Our youth leader annouced he is retiring...And a guy who used 2 b in our youth group (now he's a college student) stepped in to be our "intern" youth pastor.This guy is nice,but he never teaches anything.In our sunday school (which used 2 b AWESOME), he just puts on a video sermon. And youth group....He's disrespectful to the older boys, makes rude/crude comments....And he doesn't prepare a bible lesson at youth anymore, either. He plays favorites w/ a couple of the older girls, and lets them get away w/ stuff. He's only a couple years older than us, and he's not a good leader. So....to make a long story short, I finally quit youth group and sunday school. I still go to church, but I skip the youth interaction that I really used to love.Other kids are quitting youth too, and their parents have talked to the pastor, but nothing doing.It;s not gonna change.
Anyways, I miss the learning scripture AND the social time (I'm homeschooled--it sucks but that;s another story). So....I'm thinkin bout going to another church's (a church I went to for 8 years b4 going to the church I attend now)youth group. But I'm not sure if I should. I haven't been invited. I've just seen the other YG's blog. I know ALOT of the kids at this new youth group (I basically grew up with them)...But it's been YEARS. Like 4 years. Wouldn't it be weird if I just showed up and was like, "hey. I want to join. Even tho I dont go to this church anymore?" OPINIONS PLZ!

Answer 1

it was weird to read this since I belong to a teen-youth group and a home-schooled student. when I started in my freshman year everything sucked pretty much there were no other people my age so I quit for a while, then I returned as a late sophomore everything was so much more fun and rewarding, so maybe you should give it a try? couldn't hurt :)

Answer 2

sounds like this intern pastor needs a bit of a wakeup call.



if it were me, I'd probably also be considering moving to the other youth group, I tried 3 different youth groups in my life until i found the one i go to now, which is now my home.



you don't need permission to join another youth group btw, they would all be delighted if you re-joined don't worry, although it might be awkward for you (coming from experience here) at the end of the day, it doesn't matter.



I would put it down to where most of your friends are, sounds like most of your friends are at this inter pastor's youth group, so if it were me i would try and stick it out.



sometimes when the going gets tough you can't just throw in the towel straight away; my youth group gets on my nerves sometimes with the way they do things and i often contemplate changing youth groups, but for me, it's not about what i want, but what others want. There are a lot of guys at youth group that look up to me as a leader and for me to move on purely self-interested reasons would be 'forsaking' them for lack of a better word :P But then again I'm 18.



Seeing though you have already 'quit' youth group, i would do all you can to get into another youth group as quick as possible. If it means that you join this other youth group then that's cool so long as you get some Christian youth interaction - because that's very important.



My advice to you would be to find a youth group and church and stick with it, no matter how much it sucks, change youth groups now but make sure you find a place and stick with it, don't keep changing around.



Just remember, a youth group is never going to be perfect no matter how much you try or others try, at the end of the day, it is the amount each person puts into it that really counts and makes all the difference.



Hope that helps :S God Bless!

Answer 3

My honest opinion is that if the youth leader of the first teen group is like that I would confront him about it. He plays a serious roll in teenagers lives and if he does not treat it right there could be serious problems. If others feel that way and he does not change I would go to someone higher in the church about it. If you don't want to do that I would go ahead and go to the church you use to attend. Im not sure if you plan on going to the old church's youth group then back to the other church for the sermon that I would not recommend. No true servant of god would turn away a teenager in need of spiritual guidance even if you did leave the church. Im sure the old church will welcome you with open arms.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

NO it would not be weird,

if they were really spiritual then they would accept you (right?) that's what we do......

even though u don't go to the Church anymore it should be better than doing nothing or going to that other one that you dont like

Answer 6

i know what u mean,i found another church like you're thinking about doing. was the right thing for me.LOT'S OF LUCK!