Why does no one ever help me?

Question

All i do is help people. Ive talked so many of my friends out of cutting themselves. Even stopped a friend from killing himself. Im the one who everyone comes to when they have problems. No matter how big or small it is, i always try to help them. even if i barely know them. But when IM the one with the problem, no one gives a damn. If i help EVERYONE with THEIR problems, how come no one ever helps me with mine? ive thought about stopping helping people. but thats just to cruel. but idk what to do. Do they just not care about me? Do they think that because i have the answer to their problems i dont have any of my own? Why should i help people who wont lift a finger to help me? I know its the right thing to do an all, but it just pisses me off so much.

Answer 1

Your friends are using you. You know what kind of people try to kill themselves? Selfish people. Because their pain is much more important to them than the pain of everyone they hurt by hurting themselves. They want to hear from you how valuable and meaningful their lives are, but it would never occur to them to do the same in return. It's not your job to act as everyone's crutch. Get some new friends.

Answer 2

I don't think Capt. Jack Sparrow understands the whole situation, which makes sense since he is a drunk pirate and not a counselor. Yes, suicide can be a selfish and foolish act, as well as cutting, But don't totally dump these people. They are insecure and need help. You are doing a great job helping them through the rough spots and your really helping them out by showing you care. It is understandable you want them to help too. You are human and have your own problems. Maybe there are some other people you can go to. These ones are really insecure and may not be the best choice to rely on.

Answer 3

No One Will Help Me

Answer 4

First off you're being a bit grandiose. One person does not talk someone out of suicide or other destructive behaviors. You may have help and probably did but if the were really serious about what ever then one person could not stop them.

Second nobody owes you walk on your own problems. If your helping others is conditional on someone helping you back then it is not a selfless act when you help someone and is quite the opposite it is a selfish act because you expect some sort of reward..

Third it gets better. You need to talk honestly about your problems. That means being honest with yourself first. What part did you have in these problems. I some if not many we play a role in these problems. I speak from experience here.

So you now honest about your problems and you talk to a close friend(s) and or Family and you listen to them and tell them to be honest and there will be no repercussions for what they say.

Failing that see a therapist or a theologian or a doctor. If you are in school or college they have counselors.

Quit waiting on the world to come to your rescue. It's not there job and your foolish if you think they are just going to come without you asking for the help.

Last I've been there. Ask for the help be honest with all including yourself.

Nobody gets a walk on problems we all have them. The world doesn't owe us a damn thing.

Answer 5

I find the same problem myself. I go out of my way all the time and I always put people first, even the dog gets help before I consider myself but when ever I have a problem, my sisters are never there I cant have a problem because they think Im getting attention. and All I really need is a shoulder to cry on.,They are too preoccupied with their own life to help me . The world is a cold heartless place.

Answer 6

There is also this thought --- that they HAVE been helping you. Or much more likely, life IS fair and in this total-circle, you do get help. The complication is you get help but the scheduling goes "off".

Look back to past 10 months and past 10 years and you should see times when you received great help AND where you never got a chance to pay back. Life can get very complicated and life would look super-unfair when under pressure.... but over-all, life is fair.

Answer 7

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Why does no one ever help me?

All i do is help people. Ive talked so many of my friends out of cutting themselves. Even stopped a friend from killing himself. Im the one who everyone comes to when they have problems. No matter how big or small it is, i always try to help them. even if i barely know them. But when IM the one...

Answer 8

I totally understand where your coming from. Those questions often pop up in my head too. I love helping people. I have no problem helping people, I actually enjoy it. But as soon as I need something seems like no one is around. Sad to say, but I kinda gave up on those who could give a crap about me. Why should I care? I recently just started just putting in effort into the relationships that actually care about me. Unfortunately i have lost alot of friends. Good luck:)

Answer 9

Sometimes when you do something nice to people, you just don't get help back, and if you accept it, your truly a great person, and down the road, you'll get the help you deserve.

Answer 10

Sir, I know how u feel. We could be twins?!(just kidding) but happens to me a lot, and this is what I do. Tell people "how come u don't help me when I help u" or something not as rude. Sometimes it's because they don't know how to help u with ur situation or they don't give a damn. Idk, but hope I helped? And can u help me with my situation(: go to my thingy and answer it plz.(: or just help meh :b

Answer 11

If you help people just to receive something in return you may as well have not helped them.

You help someone because you care and don't want to see them hurt, not because you selfishly expect something in return. I'm sorry no one helps you or you haven't noticed people helping you, but the logic you used in this question is seriously f*cked up.

Answer 12

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Answer 13

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