Would you help someone in need you didn't know if asked? Could you help them without passing judgment on them

Question

If a man walked up to you in a store and asked for your help would you think about it or would you unselfessly offer your assistence with no regards to his appearance?

Now,if I was tell you this man is missing a leg and on crutches? Does this change how your response? I believe society has changed the way we react to others when it comes to how we respond in helping one another and others in times of need.

The question here was whether you would pass judgment or help selflessly? So, in regards to the missing information I must tell you this man is a vagrant, extremely intoxicated and the stench of stale alcohol is overwhelming. And the help he wants is for you to carry the can of beer to the counter for him.

Do you help him or walk away? Did knowing the details of his appearance make you judge him whereas your first response would have been to help him?

Answer 1

This is a tough question theoretically, but in reality easy, as virtually everyone WOULD judge him (whether they like to admit it or not) as they would have the entire picture at once -- not little by litle. Nearly all handicapped people are fiercely independant and most would never ask for help. That action of itself lends to the theory of enabling. That said, I have been in this situation many times and no, I have not enabled. I have purchased clothing and food, but never alcohol. Nor have I carried it to the counter for them. I have also given transportation when needed. But I am 6' and very capable of taking care of myself whereas I have strongly recommended to my daughter and wife (much smaller individuals) to never place themselves in that position of risk. Most people now have cell phones and can call a cab and even prepay for it if necessary. I've been a medic for nearly 25 years and yes, I've had to take care of many of them and no, it isn't particularly pleasant to render medical assistance (particularly CPR) to an intoxicated and/or dirty person. But that's my choice and I just hope that, although I take pains to NOT be inebriated or filthy, that one day when I need it someone takes care of me...

Answer 2

Yes I would help him. We do not know the circumstances that these people come from. I am to show the love of JESUS CHRIST to all mankind. I do not agree with the alcohol, but I am not the one enabling him to be able to drink it in the first place nor would I be the one making the choice to ingest it. Someone somewhere along the way will carry that beer to the counter for him, so why shouldn't I use it as an oppourtunity to show the love and compassion of JESUS CHRIST? Sometimes the only thing that is standing between dispair and deliverance is one kind deed or word. All it would take is to hold on to that beer a few seconds and say, there is a better way to deal with your pain, and if you would like, I can share with you how to know THE WAY...you might be surprised as to what would happen.



DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU

Answer 3

Yes, normally I help others from an objective standpoint without passing judgment. One cannot be subjective when helping others or that help will be lacking in sincerity and compassion. However, in order not to become abused, one must pick and choose their battles and not accept every problematic case that comes their way. In your particular case though, the person in question has made his choice and should learn to live with it. Now if he were asking for help to detox I would be there for him. But to carry his beer can to the counter? Let's get real! That is just enabling him in his destructive pattern of drinking. That is like buying drugs for a junkie in need of a fix.

On another note, always ask what the problem is before committing to an answer. If it is not in your capacity to help that person then you may redirect that person to someone else or the proper authorities with which could be of further assistance to them.

Answer 4

I would help if I could, and no I wouldn't judge at all. I've been to that level and I would help and have helped. I remember driving in a neighborhood late one night and I saw a child (maybe 2-4 yrs old) playing along the street. I stopped the and took as long as allowed to try to find where that child lived. I remember another time trying help a guy with direction and came to find out he intent was to drop a pigeon on me. Although you want to be helpful you must also remember to be careful, or you would be taking a ride. But as far as judging, no I wouldn't and would help if I could.

Answer 5

Yes, and I have. But add a sandwich and a piece of fruit to your purchase. Then make sure he gets that too. We just never know how a simple act of kindness, without judgment will impact the course of someones life. That man, before he encountered the tragedy of losing his leg, may have had a lot to offer the world, and now finds himself in a hole that only gets deeper. He was not born a drunk transient, and I hope he does not die that way.

Answer 6

I could and I have helped many strangers who need help. I would probably even carry the can of beer to the counter if I was asked....that would give me the opportunity to mention his intoxication to the clerk and make sure he didn't go out, get in a CAR and DRIVE away!

Answer 7

I'd just help. My motto is "make friends, not enemies." Even if I run out as soon as I finish helping him and never look back, I'd be glad that I helped him, because he may not have gotten it otherwise. I am willing to put myself out there and not judge, for I know how much I don't want to be judged. It's just another human, so what? I don't need to put my life in his hands, just carry a beer. Whatever. :) I'm nice like that.

Answer 8

first I'll asks what it is , to see if I'm able to help ,if I am then I will .... I was always giving money to the homeless , helping people when ever I can , ...the only time I turned somebody down when I had just enough money to get me home , and there was this one guy who claimed he was arrested for no reason and he needed money to get home , but he had that same story 3 weekends in a row. and a guy who said he haven't ate in over a week so I bought him a sandwich and someother food but 3 hours later that same guy came up to with the same story....but other than that I will try to help...

Answer 9

Paragraph 1: Yes, if he asked for help I would say I'd help him.



Paragraph 2: Rather than just saying, "sure", I'd ask what in specific he needs help with (with him being on crutches I would be unsure if I myself could help him).



Paragraph 3&4: I would help, but only after a suggestion of, "You sure this is what you want" beforehand. I would say, yes, his appearance and condition would change how I would help but, after saying yes already, I would not turn around and refuse him.

Answer 10

I was going to say I'd help him till you said that he wanted a beer carried to the counter. Wouldn't it actually be hurting him more to aid in acquiring more alcohol? Anyway, I think I'd still do it, but I would question whether it was hurting more than helping.

Answer 11

I would help him walk out to a taxi that I called for him. I have helped many people with out a second thought. However, when something is truly not in the persons best interest I would not be an enabler.

Answer 12

if i seen someone who needed help normal or indifferent i would help them if i could, i have helped many people over the years and not passed judgment from old women and men to young children lost in the supermarket < i seem to be a magnet for people in difficulties>, changing Tyre's helping them with shopping ,rich and poor i have even won a award for helping/employing disabled persons i have never asked for reward the drunk is a person just as i am i may even give him a lift home or to a shelter sometimes these people and people like him her me you need unselfish help support etc

Answer 13

I would not help him carry his beer. I would not help anyone do anything that is to their detrement, and certainly more beer for a drunk person is not being helpful.



I would willingly help anyone that is in need of it, but not in this case. . . sorry. Not passing judgment, but making my call on the evidence that you have given.

Answer 14

Yes, I would help and being a Christian I practice not to pass judgment on others, only God may do that.He is our final judge.

Answer 15

I need help as much as anyone. I am not getting it.



I have few materials to offer someone who needs help.



Thererfore, I can't help specific individuals at this time.

Answer 16

I have to say I expected other folks to agree with AMDG. How are you helping if you make it easier for the guy to booze it up? (OK, let's put it this way, if you find me in that situation it might be helpful if YOU DON'T HELP!)

Answer 17

DEAR MAIDEN...OF COURSE I WOULD NOT JUDGE...GOD HIMSELF IS THE ONLY TRUE JUDGE--I HAVE ENOUGH FLAWS OF MY OWN TO WORK ON WITHOUT TAKING ON EVERYONE ELSE'S!!! PERHAPS ONE DAY WE WILL WAKE UP(HERE ON THIS SITE AS WELL) AND QUIT ATTACKING PEOPLE WHO ARE "DIFFERENT" OR HAVE A "DIFFERENT" OPINION THAN THE "NORM"--WHATEVER THAT IS...Love,snoopy

Answer 18

Yes, I would help as much as I can.

Answer 19

I've done it many times

Answer 20

yes, depends on circumstance.

Answer 21

yes i would help