Why is it so hard for me to ask for help?

Question

I've had the capacity to get things done on my own, both in school and at home, but I have the BIGGEST trouble asking for help, especially in school. I feel embarrassed at the thought of asking for it, and much worse when I actually ask for it.

I've done well this semester, but one class in particular (Calculus) has been stressing me out since day 1, and I've never had the courage to ask for help. Now, I'm at a high enough grade (C+) that I should still pass the class after next week (finals), but I've always asked the professor for his office hours, and even when I told him I would stop by and ask for help, I never did, once, and mainly because I psych myself out of it and it's been like this the entire semester.

So what I'm asking is: why is it so DAMN hard for me to ask for help? I always put myself down whenever I'm not able to, and even now I'm completely frustrated with myself.

I know it's a bit late to ask for help now, considering the fact that tomorrow's our last day of class before finals week. But what can I do to make asking for help easier come next semester? Overall, I HATE this feeling of letting myself down simply because I can't ask for help.

Answer 1

Because like me, you just hate asking. If you're like me, then you'd rather go buy a video to help you through a hard class than ask for help.



Crazy, huh? But not mental -- if you can't find the answers on YouTube or online somewhere, then you will have to suck it up and ask. You know what I've found? It is so much easier after the first time of following through and asking. And even easier after that. It's weird. But that first time, whatever it takes, make yourself do it. It just plain gets easier.



As to why we're this way, there is no answer. I don't like it either, but it's the way we are. It's nothing that can't be overcome!



Cheer up, ask for your help, and get on with your life! It's not half as bad as we make it out in our minds. Really!! :)

Answer 2

I know what you mean because I've been there. Ok you're getting a passing grade but it's sad because you know you could do better. I failed my math class one semester because of this and then retook it and asked for help. When I did this I managed to get a B+. Just go and even if you feel embarrassed at the moment, have the security that you're doing the right thing and your trouble will pay off.

Best of Luck:)

Answer 3

Frankly I don’t see what you are worried about.



I don’t like asking for help either.

I like handling my problems on my own.

I’m my own man and I don’t want anybody’s help.



I am half way through my life and only on very rare

occasions have I ever asked anybody for help.

I like feeling strong and independent.



It’s pretty simple to me.

Answer 4

Well its all the matter of CONFIDENCE...under you enter into the swimming pool you cant learn swimming rather you learn many book on swimming......Well one thing dont take yourself serious..Well i think you are confident who ask this question here..Be bold and courageous..Think what is your lacking qualities try to fullfill them and please dont think like noone likes you or hate you..Well one thing ask you professor to help you..

Answer 5

dont be embarresed. its normal we are all humans and we dont know EVERYTHING even our teacher dont know everything. so dont even think about it just do it. your friends asl for help dpnt they?? and it warms a teachers heart when they know that theyre doing ther job good bcuz ther jib is to teach amd helps....good night :)