Why is it that I have no American friends in the USA?

Question

I'm Mexican, NOT born in the USA. I don't have any American friends, but I have many friends from all around.

I got friends BORN in Turkey, Israel, India, Uganda, Japan, Korea, Cuba, Belgium, Quebec, Congo and other countries.

I have Black friends, but none them is African American, they are actual Africans. I have Asian friends, but none of them is an Asian American. I don't even Hispanic friends, none of my Mexican, Cuban or Argentinian friends was born in the USA.

I don't know if it's because Americans regardless of ethnicity (even Hispanics,) are extremely prejudiced towards foreigners.

I thing I do like about having friends who are not American-born is not having to deal with all the negative stereotypes Americans have from Hollywood. I don't have to explain what's true, and what is false.

I still wonder,

Why don't I have any American-born friends?

Answer 1

Cuz Americans are stuck up pricks. And you just get along better with non Americans

Answer 2

It sad to see a question like this because I know how true this can be in many places. I'm a Mexican American and growing up I went to a high school with a high Hispanic population. The Hispanics at my school were composed of two groups, those who had recently immigrated and those who grew up here and yes I can definitely see what you are talking about. The Hispanics that were born here always seemed to push aside those who were not and in many cases seemed to get along a lot more with the white population at my school. Of course there were always exceptions. I for one never ignored the newly immigrated Hispanics but at the same time ill admit that I never made a true effort to associate with them more. I don't know how long you have been here but eventually youll have to make friends that were born here, keep your head up. We Americans seem to live in a bubble sometimes but not always, and just keep meeting new people and eventually youll meet someone. Buena suerte!

Answer 3

Americans have a very strict social codes, regarding what is and isn't acceptable social behavior.



These codes are completely different from the rest of the world.



They are wary of foreigners, because those foreigners are doing things in a way that is not the American way.



Examples of cultural differences:



- If someone stops being useful or interesting to you, within the American code you can just stop taking their calls, e-mails, texts or anything else, with no explanation, and no regard to any consequences on their side (delaying their projects etc.). This is not acceptable behavior in the rest of the world.



- Americans get anxious when people talk to each other in raised or excited voices because they think it might indicate coming violence - in many cultures raised voices or even expressed anger is normal and does not indicate violence.



- In an American organization, a person of high standing may treat a person of low standing like his inferior or even servant. I've never seen that in another country. In America that doesn't always happen of course, but both sides know and accept that is the prerogative of the higher up and if he chooses to take it the lowling must take it with a brave face.



- "Banter" - make public fun of the painful weaknesses in your peer's personality and life. You have to take it smiling, be a good sport and pretend it's not mean. Never happened to me as I was a foreigner, but I saw it happen to others.